"Hey, Matt, sometimes in meetings, it looks like you're disinterested"
"Liam, I don't think you intend this, but you can create a first impression that you're cocky"
"Karen, you may not realize that at times you come across as cold and stand-offish"
These comments seem a bit...intense, right?
Given in a healthy context and delivery style, with people who've established trust and have each others' best in mind, these comments become gifts. Gifts full of potential.
If Matt isn't disinterested, how are we helping him by not sharing our ongoing impressions?
If Karen is shy, but doesn't know she's coming across as stand-offish, are we helping her develop or contribute if we don't say anything?
And what about you?
(I'm asking myself too)
What signals are you sending that you don't want to send?
How can you know if no one tells you and/or you don't ask?
What potential could be highlighted if you asked for or gave feedback that could improve productivity or impact?
Commit to asking one person you trust for direct feedback today.
If you're not already familiar with her work, I highly recommend reading Kim Scott's book, Radical Candor.
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